Grasping rather than the object grasped
Attachment is a relationship
A person, home, teaching, or plan is not inherently an attachment. Attachment describes how the mind relates: this must remain, this must define me, this must protect me from change. The suffering lies in the demand for permanence.
Non-attachment does not reduce value. Because a relationship is changing and mortal, attention becomes more urgent and honest. Love can respond to the person present rather than the role they are required to play.